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♞♞博马♞♞波波教你如何修心养性
C, a- v$ m: y! \ 修心:使心灵纯洁( [- s3 O' ]; V
2 k9 C2 Q+ H |8 R* p* V2 @9 ^; w5 ~ 养性:使本性不受损害。通过自我反省体察,使身心达到完美的境界) z, L& }7 g9 a
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& y, p% M% C$ i }, E+ r 怎样做到修心养性呢?' ?& P, b7 C! k
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3 ~. ^1 k2 k6 y不要老是惦念明天的事,也不要总是懊悔昨天发生的事,而把精神集中在今天要干什么上。因为遗憾、悔恨、内疚和难过并不能改变过去,只会使当前的工作难以进行下去。
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/ n6 s* a: R( \3 T0 B2. 生活在这里
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/ }* T; i7 U( x' u7 i; d我们对远方发生的事无能为力,想也没有用;杞人忧天,徒劳无益;惶惶不安,对于事情毫无帮助。记住自己就是生活在此处此地,而不是遥远的其他地方。
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6 K$ m Z* \3 @4. 暂停思考,多去感受5 M1 Q1 S8 R) Y+ z4 P. h
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D. W# e6 ~( G* c很多人整天所想的就是怎样做好工作,怎样考出好成绩,怎样搞好和领导、同事的关系等等,因而往往容易忽视或者没有心思去观赏美景,聆听悦耳的音乐等等。格式塔疗法强调作为思考基础的“感受”,比起思考本身更为重要。没有感受就无从思考,感受可以调整、丰富你的思考。5 [# N2 ?, i2 j, Z
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人们往往容易逃避责任。比如,考试成绩不好,会把失败原因归罪为自己的家庭环绕不好,学校不好;工作不好,会推诿说领导不力,条件太差等。把自己的过错、失败都推到客观原因上。“格式塔疗法”的一项重要原则,就是要求自己做事自己承担责任。; s! F$ }# h1 _
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8. 正确地自我估计
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7 f: }* H# ]' L, a# j修心养性益健康
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修心养性,就是让人心不致动荡不安,达到陶冶情操,平衡心态,事事想得通,顺其自然规律,积极适应环境,把握好自己的情绪,做到控制好自己心情,不生不切实际的妄念。这样人体心情处在心平气和状态下,生理功能平和有序,达到了养生保健,心理平衡,心态良好,这种状态就有利于身心健康。
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$ |0 S) g1 i& L7 I% U3 E在此,波波特此与大家分享修心养性之道,不仅在人际生活中,事业中,而且在进行投注的过程中,也是起到决定性的作用的,人的性格决定以后是否成功,性格不易更改,但是后期的培养却可以改变以后的道路,波波衷心希望大家在日常生活中也能修心养性,找回自己,展现出最好的自己!
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